If you have been asking questions about siblings adoption, the process of adopting a siblings group or asking about the methods of separating siblings by adoption, then this post is for you. I will take the time to show you how to go about adopting siblings and I will make sure I answered all your questions about siblings adoption.
Let’s dive in.
What Is Siblings Adoption:
This is the type of adoption where an adoptive family chooses to adopt children from the same family, probably brothers and sisters from one parent. As I was studying this topic, I found out that about 40% of children waiting to be adopted in the UK are all in sibling groups.
The question is: is it necessary to adopt a sibling? The answer depends on you. I know that all the people adopting for the first time prefer to take only one child into their home. Everyone knows that taking care of a child isn’t easy, talk less is Adopting two and adopting siblings for that matter.
However, if you have considered adopting siblings and fill it won’t be easy for you to do, I have good news for you. I will show you how to go through siblings adoption without stress. Experts say that it’s more advantageous and rewarding to adopt children in sibling groups than adopting one after the other.
In other words, if you want to adopt more than one child, then siblings adoption is the best for you; if you want a child, then siblings adoption is not for you. Although I know that having more than one child is challenging, I know there are also so many benefits too.
Here are a few of the benefits
- You won’t have to go through the adoption training and approvals the second time.
- Also, the added challenges of placing a second child with your family are greatly minimized.
- It is also to the advantage of the children because they won’t find it hard to adapt to each other. If you adopt children separately, you’ll not find it easy to make them blend with each other.
- Children in sibling groups will love to be placed in the same home, rather than facing the trauma of being separated from each other. Etc.
- It helps the children from the lifelong trouble of searching for their lost brothers and sisters.
- For the adopting parents who seriously want to adopt more than one child, sibling group adoption prevents you from having more time of transitioning children into a family.
- According to adoption experts, siblings are placed together to feel secure and help one another to adjust quickly to their new homes and community.
How To Go About Siblings Adoption.
1) Check Very Well:
Adopting a single child is different from adopting a sibling group. Although the process may not be very different, the experiences are not the same. In that case, it is imperative that you consider your action pretty well before stepping out for siblings adoption.
Are you ready for this?: That’s the first question you should ask yourself; knowing full well what it takes to raise two, three, or four siblings at a time. Raising more than one child is not very easy to talk to less than two or three. So evaluate yourself and be sure that this is what you want to do.
When you are sure that siblings adoption is best for you, then try to educate yourself about it. Research about it, read books, and ask questions about siblings adoption. You will be amazed at what information you will get about the best steps for adopting siblings.
2) Find A Mentor:-
It is pretty obvious that you can do this journey alone, therefore, it will be important to find a mentor to guide you especially if you have not adopted before.
Consider finding an experienced adoptive or foster parent to mentor you through your siblings adoption journey. They have experiences they can share with you to help you, so don’t hesitate or feel shy to ask them any bothering questions you have about the process of adopting sibling groups.
3) Prepare Your Families Mind:-
No matter the type of adoption you are going through, there is a need to prepare your family’s mind(especially the children) for it. Bringing a new child into your family will change the dynamics for all family members. Meanwhile, no matter how you bring a child into your family, you should have time to prepare your family for the new things.
When your adopted children are not newborns, it means he/she will almost have developed some behaviors and habits that may not be good for your family, That’s why you must try to prepare your existing children the same way you’ll do when it’s your biological child.
If you are adopting from a different culture or interracial adoption, it’s important that you know that your family will become the latest center of attention, so prepare your children’s minds to handle the new experiences.
4)Consider The Whole Adoption Issues You Will Face Soonest:–
It’s important you also have in mind that as you are bringing a new child (children) into your family, you are adding more hurdles to your family. There will be many hurdles and you would have had some already. But, it’s advisable to think of the new challenges that will be added to you. Are you ready for it?
Am talking about these hurdles:
- Medical needs.
- Educational issues.
- Trauma and abuse.
There are so many new issues you should expect with the adoption of siblings into your family. They are not impossible, inevitable, but they only require that you get yourselves prepared to handle them. That being said, I want you to see siblings’ adoption as another need as you prepare to adopt the siblings group.
5) Check Your Motivations Once Again
When you are considering siblings’ adoption, it will be better for you to be honest with yourself. I have written down a few questions that will help you check your motivations again. The answers you’ll give may not be right, but consider checking yourself and your partner if possible to know how prepared you are.
- Will you say yes because you want a particular gender or age?
- Are you considering a sibling’s adoption because you want to adopt once and for all or what?
- Are you doing this because of pressure or not?
- Can we pursue further knowledge in order to know more about parenting our children and the adopted children?
- Are strong enough to keep the family United as well as keep the children connected to their siblings even when we didn’t adopt all of them?
Just consider these questions as a starting point for your adoption journey. The question may look prompt to you, but they will surely help you know what your motivations are.
6) Set Some Expectations For Yourself:-
If you already have your biological children, you should know that setting realistic expectations for your daily life and transition is very vital. It will be best if you make your expectations achievable and accessible when you go through sibling group adoption.
Siblings will enter your home with many unique personalities and characters they got from their old environment. So to add them to your family, there is a need to get yourself fully profit it; that will give you the mindset to offer them space, grace, and time as you watch them grow.
This is also applicable to your existing family. You have to watch all of them make mistakes in the beginning, but with faith that things will get better with time. Adopting siblings requires a clear goal as it will give you the footing and drive to thrive with your family.
Find Adoption Professional:-
Just like in every other type of adoption, you will need an adoption professional to aid you in your adoption process Adoption agencies are trained on the things concerning adoption, and they are there to help you for a fee.
When you get an adoption agency for your adoption, ask them any question you need to be answered. Most especially, ask them about their fee on time. To know more about adoption agencies and how they will help you through your journey read my post.
Complete You Home Study:-
Also, be ready to go through some investigation before you take the child home. The adoption social worker will visit your home at any time, to know your financial level, Medical history, and how comfortable your how is with the child.
Adoption home study takes time to be approved. In that case, I will advise you to start it on time so you complete it on time too.
To find out more on how to locate a good adoption agency, read my article here.
Take time to consider your steps. Siblings Adoption comes with many benefits for the children and it’s also a great way to build your family. Taking time to examine yourself critically will help you know if you are truly ready for it and if it is right for your family.